Friday was the first day with the trainer. He immediately had the respect of my 14 month old female. My 12 week old male was a little more off in his own world. I guess just being a puppy. He taught us how to do distance control, come off leash, sit/stay, and proper walking. They have to wear their leashes all the time (except when crated). He says it's not forever, but gives us an edge when first starting. That if their out of our reach but the leash isn't, that when we catch them just about to do something or if they've already focused on it, to grab the leash, give our command and tug/yank on the leash at the same time and make them become submissive. I think I am failing miserably. This morning my two were playing around and the male started getting rough and aggressive again, so I had to pull them apart. They wouldn't listen to my commands and kept going for one another. I finally had to take my girl to the ground because she wouldn't listen. I cried and cried. I don't like using force/being physical with them. I feel like I'm hurting them by tugging/yanking on the leash. I won't and don't ever hit my dogs with my hands or anything else for that matter. I just don't think that they respect me at all and that it will become and issue. I mean already has or I wouldn't of sought out training. Before getting the puppy we had no aggression issues out of our older female. She had some behavorial problems but that's my fault because I'm "humanizing" her as the trainer said. But really I didn't believe she had one aggresive bone in her body. Then last night the two dogs were going at each other for this kong toy that had some liver paste in it. When the puppy left it alone and found something else, the older one went over to get it. I didn't want her to have it so I went over to take and all the hair on her back went up. I've only seen that when playing chase/keep away with her. I was able to take it but for a second was thinking, "she could take my head off if she wanted to." I love her and him too but I just think I'm a failure. I know it's only been one weekend, but I just don't think I can get it. I have to learn patience but its so hard. How long did it take you to finally earn your dogs respect for you and the ALPHA of the house?